5 Things You Can Do To Prepare for Marriage

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Great Boundless post on marriage preparation (not mine)!!  Check it out here.

What stood out to me the most was conflict resolution.  I see that so much in Pat and my relationship – while dating, it is so easy to avoid conflict.  We’re not living together, so basically there’s no conflict that can’t be solved through patience and holding one’s tongue.  I know that these are key skills that will help me in marriage because you have to choose your battles…but I also know that they’re at the heart just avoidance, plain and simple.  Eventually, Pat and I are going to have to find a way to have positive confrontation and conflict resolution.

I think fear holds me back – fear that conflict may result in something so terrible that we break up and our relationship will be over.  Hopefully, once we get through the first few fights, I can have enough faith and trust that conflict can happen and it won’t be the end of everything.

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