Great Boundless post on marriage preparation (not mine)!! Check it out here.
What stood out to me the most was conflict resolution. I see that so much in Pat and my relationship – while dating, it is so easy to avoid conflict. We’re not living together, so basically there’s no conflict that can’t be solved through patience and holding one’s tongue. I know that these are key skills that will help me in marriage because you have to choose your battles…but I also know that they’re at the heart just avoidance, plain and simple. Eventually, Pat and I are going to have to find a way to have positive confrontation and conflict resolution.
I think fear holds me back – fear that conflict may result in something so terrible that we break up and our relationship will be over. Hopefully, once we get through the first few fights, I can have enough faith and trust that conflict can happen and it won’t be the end of everything.