Holding Onto Hope


Hope is the thing with feathers-

That perches in the soul-

And sings the tune without words-

And never stops-at all-


Emily Dickinson

A relationship ends.  The one that you thought was going to last.

A person doesn’t respond to your contact.  They seemed like a perfect match.

The call that you wait for after a great first date…never comes.

In dating, one of the hardest things to hold onto is hope.  I remember starting my venture in online dating, getting access to hundreds of profiles of available men, and thinking that my time of singleness was over.  I just had to click the right profile, send a witty message, and abracadabra, a single woman would be converted into a bride right before your very eyes, ladies and gentlemen!

Of course, it didn’t happen like that.  I dated one person after another, and it became harder each time to muster up the appropriate enthusiasm.  I looked around me and saw other women getting engaged, getting married, and having babies.  It seemed unfair.  Worse, it seemed that God had forgotten me.  Either that, or He simply didn’t care.

These are of course the Enemy’s lies.  He wants us to be discouraged and to give up hope.  He wants us to settle for someone who is less than God’s best for us.  He wants us to feel distanced from God.

But praise God, we have Scripture to help teach us the truths to sustain our hope: God sees you. God loves you. God wants to give you good things.

1. God sees you. What’s more, He sees every part of us, even what might seem small or insignificant.  He created our inmost being and knit us together in the womb (Psalm 139). He has numbered even the hairs on our head (Luke 12). If he sees us to this level, then He also sees our hearts and our desires.  He knows your silent suffering, the shame, and the envy.  He hears your prayers.

2. God loves you. Our God is a God of steadfast love and faithfulness (Psalm 86). .He guided the Israelites out of Egypt and provided for them, even when their hearts continually strayed.  He responded to their prayers through centuries of war and exile. He sent even His son to die for us.  If God loves His people this much, is a husband really the thing that He will withhold?

3. God wants to give you good things. If He sees you and He loves you, then the only question is will He provide for you?  That answer is YES!  In Luke 11, Jesus teaches, “What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent; or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion?” Our God is a good father who knows how to give good gifts!

Dating is difficult.  But hopefully we too can say, as Dickinson did, that Hope never stops.  At all.

For my readers, how do you hold onto hope?

2 thoughts on “Holding Onto Hope

  1. How do I hold on to hope? I quote Bible verses about how God will provide for all my needs according to the riches in Christ Jesus and how He clothes the fields with lilies of the valley and feeds the sparrows and how much more am I worth? And how I shouldn’t worry about tomorrow because tomorrow has enough worries of its own. And how our own parents give us good things so how much more with our Heavenly Father give us good gifts? It does help to meditate on God’s goodness and provision when I start losing hope.

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