I think every woman goes through moments where she feels unpretty.
I remember one of my own moments at age 14. I would mentally pick myself apart while looking in the bathroom mirror.
My skin was too dark. My hair was too short. My eyes were too small. And collectively, I had decided these were the reasons why I was not pretty and hence, why I had no boyfriend.
I concluded it was all about looks.
After all, the gorgeous girl always gets the guy, right?
Look at Samson and Delilah. (Judges 16) Pictorially, Delilah is always illustrated as a knockout. There is one drawing I remember from my childhood book of Bible stories. Shiny ebony locks cascaded down her shoulders. She had pouty red lips and kohl rimmed eyelids. Delilah wore a dreamy expression as she looked at Samson, who seemed to be completely charmed by this woman.
But some time ago, someone posed this thought to me:
Whoever said that Delilah was beautiful?
Delilah’s appearance isn’t spoken of anywhere in the Bible. Her most notable feature is her ability to extract the secret of Samson’s strength. And how was she able to do it? She provided a place of solace and comfort, a place for him to lay his head.
Samson, after a day of leading Israel and fighting their enemies, recovers and rests in Delilah’s arms and lap. She gently massages his scalp and smooths his curls around her index finger while cooing soft words of comfort and peace.
We can glean something from this (of course, minus Delilah’s terrible motive and betrayals.
It is tragically easy for women to dislike how we look, to assign blame and rejection to our mirror reflections. But the truth is Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
We are a wonderful work. Completely wonderful. That goes for the inside and out.
I had always envisioned Delilah as this ridiculously gorgeous vixen.
But the idea that it was not her supposed beauty but her disposition and her personality that was so captivating that it made the world’s strongest man give up his might? Incredible.
It’s not all about looks.
How have insecurities about appearances challenged your dating life?
Photo credit to Death to the Stock Photo.