Dismissal never feels good.
A few years ago during a chat with a friend of mine, I had expressed a deep concern about a heart matter, to which she responded with a dismissive chuckle.
“You’ll be all right,” she said. “It’s nothing.”
I had shrugged off the slight, knowing that the hurt was unintentional. But it hurt all the same.
Over the past few years, she and I had shared countless conversations about dating, love, and solid relationships. We encouraged, laughed, lamented, and prayed together.
But then, she fell in love, got married, and seemingly memory became a memory.
Amnesia can be a heady drink.
It is intoxicating to soak in present pleasure when you were used to being in pain. It’s exhilarating to bask in current peace when you were formerly worried. And it’s downright thrilling to bathe in joy when you had so many dark days.
And then life before the turning point becomes alien. Struggle is no longer something we can or want to relate to. And we can become estranged from those who are not yet where we are.
But that shouldn’t be.
“He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” (2 Corinthians 1:4 NLT)
As believers in Christ, we are to support each other through the layers of this life. When we remember our struggles from yesterday, we connect to each other and allow God to use our prior pain for His glory and for the good of another.
There is purpose in recalling the past.
Have you had trouble relating to your married friends, or vice versa?
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Hi, there! My name is Jennifer. I’m 31 and live in the D.C. area. I love Jesus, R & B music, and sugar in all its forms. In June 2016, I married my amazing husband, Calvin. I was completely single and waiting throughout my entire twenties. So I know the prayers, fears, and tears that come with prolonged singleness very well. I am excited to share my story and encourage single women who are waiting for God’s best!