Hi MRP friends! MRP is back and we are kicking off our “post every day” October challenge Proverbs study!!! I want to encourage you to follow along with us in our study and to grow in wisdom together! We will be posting on each day’s corresponding numbered chapter. Please join with us in posting responses (plus it’s good accountability!). You can also volunteer to participate in writing posts by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org! I pray that God speaks to each one of us during this month!
Proverbs 1:23-Come and listen to my counsel. I’ll share my heart with you and make you wise.
I was 22 when I met Deb. A newly minted college graduate, I had landed my first full-time position and Deb was a popular supervisor in my department. During my first month on the job, I quickly saw why she was so liked. She was warm and friendly. Whenever she’d make a comment or remark at our weekly staff meetings, the room would ripple with laughing agreement. She was friendly and cheerful. Her voice reminded me of bells, tingling with joy.
Her warm confidence was enviable to me since I felt grossly deficient in both categories. The dating drought I prayed for an end to while in college looked as if it would extend indefinitely. At the time, I was preparing to serve as a bridesmaid in what would be the first of four bridal party stints. My gaggle of friends were all happily taken, instant messaging me with random giddy thoughts about their beaus. And here I was, entering the unfamiliar realm of single Christian women. I didn’t know what to make of it or how to make it. All I knew was it felt bleak.
That is, until one morning.
I had arrived at work early, hoping to warm up for the work day with my favorite fuel: coffee. On my way to the communal kitchen to pour a cup, I passed what I thought would be an empty office…until I heard the click of a lamp.
“Well, good morning!” I could see Deb smile from her office, cocking her head to see me through her open doorway. I smiled and returned her greeting while still moving toward the kitchen. There was coffee to be had.
But after retrieving my steaming cup, somehow I found myself sitting in Deb’s office for an hour, talking about our shared faith in Christ and our shared hope for marriage and love. That single conversation led to me wandering into her office most mornings for a chat or more appropriately, a knowledge gleaning session. Deb was in her 40s, and also single. And while she had never been married, she had had relationships, an experience in which I was very naïve. She’d honestly and eagerly recount her heartthrobs, her heartbreaks, and her heart lessons, always urging me to learn from her mistakes so I wouldn’t have to make any of my own. She’d pray for my faith in the Lord to flourish and for my prayer for marriage to be answered. And she’d encourage me not to underestimate the value I had been given from God.
Looking back, there is no question that the Lord intersected Deb’s life with mine. At that crucial point in time, she shared her heart with me and made me strong, ready, and wise.
Traversing life as an older Christian single woman can make you feel weary, tiresome, and invisible. But there are younger women who are watching and see you as an encouragement. Your role as she who is enduring, she who is walking by faith, and she who prays and doesn’t compromise is inspiring and can nourish the next generation.
Who can you share your journey of singleness with? Join the conversation by posting a response below or share how else Proverbs 1 impacted you!
Hi, there! My name is Jennifer. I’m 31 and live in the D.C. area. I love Jesus, R & B music, and sugar in all its forms. In June 2016, I married my amazing husband, Calvin. I was completely single and waiting throughout my entire twenties. So I know the prayers, fears, and tears that come with prolonged singleness very well. I am excited to share my story and encourage single women who are waiting for God’s best!