Proverbs 2:12– Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted.
Sometimes, those with the best of intentions can dispense the worst of advice.
A few years ago, one of my coworkers was deep in the sweet bliss that comes with a new relationship. She was happy and like any friend in love, she wanted me to be happy too. And she thought my happiness was to be found in a date with her boyfriend’s coworker, who was an unbeliever.
When I gently turned her down, she gave me some baffling input.
“You’re being judgmental. This is why women are bitter. They want to have these men who have relationships with God but don’t give a fighting chance to these good men who don’t.” She spat out her arguments like flat soda, always circling back to one thing: Settle for deleting God from your requirements or suffer the consequences.
I grew quiet as I thought about her reaction. Was I being too quick to dismiss? It’s just a date, right? I want a man who loves God but maybe that is asking too much? Maybe this is what I have to do in order to be married?
I chewed on her words. Let them sit on my tongue. And finally decided to swallow them.
But they wouldn’t go down.
It felt like I was trying to eat a pair of socks. Or drink a tall glass of sand. My throat felt clogged as it moved up and down to digest the inedible. But the jagged and bloated nuggets formed a twisted mass that stuck in my throat, unable to be accepted by my body.
Finally, I threw them up and threw it away.
I realized that it was the Holy Spirit Who prevented me from absorbing those statements. Despite my friend’s good intent, her speech was bad, void of God’s will and character. Wanting a husband who loves God isn’t asking too much. In fact, according to Scripture, it’s asking the perfect amount. And no matter how long the wait or what anyone says, it is not worth compromising.
Extended singleness can invite all sorts of unsolicited words of advice. It’s wise to seek God before trying to digest any twisted ones.
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Hi, there! My name is Jennifer. I’m 31 and live in the D.C. area. I love Jesus, R & B music, and sugar in all its forms. In June 2016, I married my amazing husband, Calvin. I was completely single and waiting throughout my entire twenties. So I know the prayers, fears, and tears that come with prolonged singleness very well. I am excited to share my story and encourage single women who are waiting for God’s best!