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Hi MRP!

I’m 26 year old lady, I recently broke up with my 3 months boyfriend, reason being that; He came to me told me he doesn’t love me as he think he should have, and furthermore he said he don’t see our relationship going forward so we separated.

It’s hurts, coz he was a good guy a full time Christian who loves God, and right now I feel like I’ll never find one like him, I belive n have faith in God, but emotionally I’m devastated, sometimes it get hard so much that I call him not to ask him to get back to me but just talk, though deep inside me I wish he could just call and say whatever he said it’s not true.

Now I’ve just registered to online singles just trying to close the gap n forget about him!!!

Any advice for me!???

please help

God Bless you, Miss L

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I’m so sorry you’re going through this heartache. A break-up is such a painful and emotionally exhausting experience.  And unfortunately, there is no shortcut to get through it. So while an online dating site is a great choice, I don’t think you should join one just yet.

Give yourself permission and time to grieve the end of this relationship first.  It’s OK to cry. It’s OK that you feel hurt.  Surrendering your heart, the most valued piece of yourself, to someone else is a beautiful and big deal. So big a deal that after a heartbreak, emotional convalescence is necessary if complete healing is to take place.

Complete healing may mean letting distance and space exist between you and your former boyfriend. Continual contact with him can only exacerbate your heartache, reminding you of what was and what is no longer.

Take time to pray and rest in the comfort that God sees your pain and He’s with you in it.  “God is close to the brokenhearted and He rescues those whose spirits are crushed” (Psalm 34:18).

This break-up may feel especially raw since your former boyfriend sounds like a great find, the one who got away.  But as great as he may be, great God-fearing men are not extinct. J  Proverbs 16:9 says, “We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.” God is the Author of your entire life and that includes your love story.  The one who is for you will surely not get away.

Once you feel that you’ve gotten over this relationship, online dating awaits your profile!

I pray that this helps. May the Lord grant you peace, healing, and comfort as only He can give.

-Jen

MRP readers, any additional thoughts, encouragement, or advice for Miss L?  If you have a question you want answered, please email modernruthproject@gmail.com!

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  1. This may sound trite or tough to hear at this moment, Miss L, but at some point, you’re going to look back and realize why he was not the right person for you and that it was better that the relationship was broken off. In the moment, you’re feeling loss, and it just makes you want that person even more. But I promise you that all things happen for a reason and you will see that reason at some point – like when you finally do meet the right person!

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