What is the strangest place you have ever gone on a date? Mine was going on a second date to a gun range.
I met him off of Christian Mingle. He was just a few years older than me, handsome, and a graduate of Michigan Law. Our few email exchanges had shown him to be smart and funny. My hopes as I went into the first date were high.
We met at a local restaurant/bar – I frankly don’t remember if he picked it or I picked it. It wasn’t the best, but it wasn’t bad. I found him sitting at a high top table. Okay, maybe not as handsome as in his profile picture, but still cute.
And then he started talking…and talking…and talking. I couldn’t get a word in edgewise. Some of what I learned was good. I learned about his job, his childhood vacations, everything up to his favorite color. He was Orthodox Greek and very traditional, which wasn’t my faith, but at least he was a Christian!
Then he told me about the guns. Let me just say that I don’t like handguns. They were designed with one purpose – killing humans – and I don’t like them. And he apparently loved them. Said that he always carried at least two on him and made sure he had one in every room. Horrified, I tried to imagine living like that – what if we had kids?
After we left the restaurant, he asked me if I wanted a second date. I weighed the pros and cons. Christian, Michigan Law, smart, professional, handsome…this kind of guy doesn’t just fall from trees. But could I handle the guns?
So I did what I knew I needed to do to see if I could really fit into his world. I took a risk. “I will go on a second date…if we go to the gun range.” I didn’t want to, I had never been to one, had no desire to go, but I thought, why not? It was an adventure.
His response: “Will you marry me now?”
We went to the gun range and while nothing terrible happened, the short story is that the guy didn’t get a third date. Maybe it wasn’t going to work right from the beginning. But I took a chance, stepped out of my comfort zone, and gave it a shot (literally). I am proud of myself for doing it.
In dating, I have tried out new restaurants, gone to sporting events and festivals, and attended museum exhibitions. If someone had a passion or interest, I wanted to see it. The person might only have lasted for a date or two. But these experiences made me a better person with a richer history and more memories because of it.