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Dear MRP,

Last month, I was introduced to this guy by a friend of mine. We hit off (or so I thought) and began talking every other day. But then, a week ago, he pulled back and hasn’t been in contact, despite my attempts. I’m not sure what I did but it left me feeling kind of hurt and confused. It was only a short ‘conversationship’ and logically, I know I should just let it go but it still bothers me. How do I get over this?

—Hurt & Confused


Dear Hurt & Confused,

I’m sorry you’re going through this. False starts and fizzled burgeoning relationships are never fun. They end for variety of reasons, sometimes, very mysteriously like your situation. But I don’t think you should feel wrong about being affected by it.

I think you have a case of what I call ‘disbelief whiplash’. The promise of a successful relationship begins to rotate your view but a sudden enigmatic reversal snaps it back. If you had your hopes, that’s natural. And as a result, it’s also natural to feel let down when it ends. Also, it may not be because of anything you did. There could be a myriad of reasons for this guy’s disappearing act. Don’t collect guilt when it doesn’t have your name written on it.

Lastly, remember that God allows things to end for a reason. The electricity of a new relationship may divinely melt into a fizzle before it even takes off. And that’s for the best.

I pray that you continue to trust God in this and seek His best for you.

-Jen @ MRP


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