Modern Ruth: Mary

Mary Winkler

Mary is actually a good friend of mine – we went to church together for several years!  I used her story for encouragement during my single years and I pray that it blesses you as well!

Age at Marriage 36

Tell me a little about the journey from meeting to marriage, starting with how you met!

It is amazing how God worked in the details to bring us together!  My roommate of four years moved out and I was heartbroken.  But God had bigger plans.  The same day she moved out, I had a blind date with this guy from Columbus who ended up being my husband!

The backstory was that Mark was a ski club advisor and he met with a friend in Mansfield, my hometown, to go skiing.  The Lord shut the electricity off so he didn’t get to ski!  So instead he went to the friend’s house who happened to be good family friends of mine. They lived next to a former boss of Mark’s, so they went to visit them.  The boss remembered Mark and said, my daughter had this teacher and we thought at the time that you should meet, but that was 10 years ago.  That teacher was me! When my friends heard about it, they picked it up and ran with it!  And guess what, the very same night that he was in Mansfield, my hometown, I was in Columbus at the school where he taught!  God was clearly working in this.

We met and had dinner at the same friends’ house.  But while I liked him, I didn’t think it would go anywhere.  Mark was really into sports and I wasn’t – in fact, that was one of the reasons my roommate had just moved out!  He didn’t say that he would call or mention a second date.  I was surprised to hear from him!  We started going on dates, but each time, two weeks would pass between each date and I never knew if he was going to call or where it was going!  It wasn’t smooth and wonderful like I was hoping.  Meanwhile, he thought everything was going great!

Finally, I said, if I don’t see anything that seems like there’s a future today when we go out, then I’m not dating him anymore. I don’t need a friend in Columbus.  Little did I know, though, that secretly Mark had planned this whole romantic date to go fishing on a pond to show me he was “hooked” on me.  We got engaged that November and married the following June!  Sometimes you just have a few bumps on the road.

What was your biggest struggle as a single person, and what helped you overcome it?

I wondered if I would ever meet the right guy but the good thing was that my mom never worried about it nor gave me any pressure because she knew I would!  I was lucky to be a part of a singles group so I had a lot of single friends.  I had a great job that I loved, I had fun roommates, and a supportive family.  I wondered if I was going to marry, but I wasn’t going to marry someone just to get married.  Either God had someone or He didn’t.

What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband? Now that you are married, do you still think that those are the most important qualities to find in a mate?

Being Christian is number one.  He didn’t have to be handsome, but I had to be attracted to him. I did want him to be six foot and I also wanted him to have more family than I had because I wanted to have lots of family.  I had prayed for those things and it’s amazing that I got them!  I liked that he was really into the Word – he was a Bible teacher – and he liked kids and family was important to him.  I also liked that he was adventuresome.  He’s always trying daredevil things – you name it, he did it!  I’m still after 24 years hearing more stories about things he did!

Now that we’re married, the biggest thing is that he’s a solid Christian.  Being adventuresome dies out with the responsibilities of life, but being a Christian remains.

How did you know he was the right man to marry?

He made sense for me.  He was also a teacher, we had the same values and I had a peace about it.  Whereas none of the other guys I ever had peace about – I would try to make myself see it, I dated one guy off and on for years, and now I am glad that it didn’t work out with him.  Last, I knew Mark was committed – we have never said the “d” word.

Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time of singleness that has blessed you in marriage?

A real trust in Him and to look to Him to meet my needs.  You don’t have to be married for that.  Put God first.  God can move the pieces; it’s not a problem for Him.  Just have a deep, trusting relationship with the Lord that He is all you need. That has carried over well because there are so many things that you have to trust the Lord for – job changes, finances, health, etc.

What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?

Really commit it to the Lord and pray about it.  Be busy about doing what God wants you to do.  Don’t become self-centered.  Be serving and giving of yourself and give yourself opportunities to meet lots of different people.  Relationships are important whether you’re married or not.  Let the Lord be the one to bring the right person.

Modern Ruth: Marlene

cute wedding

Age at Marriage      33

Tell me a little about the journey from meeting to marriage, starting with how you met!

I met my husband about 29 years ago at my neigh our’s house. Judith, a student from the Good News Club asked me to plea to her mother for permission to allow her to go out on a trip with the club. She was a young convert so I wanted her to experience the novelty of a Christian fellowship. I took on the task and I think I was handsomely rewarded. I vividly remember our meeting. I went to the Williams in the morning where the family members were all relaxing in the living room. “Good morning,” I said and all answered. Then Mrs. Williams smiled at me “Kay meet Matt” and l followed her eyes to the face of a stranger. “Nice to meet you,” I responded. Then I turned to Mrs. Williams, “Is he a Christian?” She did not answer but kept her smile.

What was your biggest struggle as a single person, and what helped you overcome it?

One of my struggles was to feel comfortable in groups when all around was couples. They seemed to be all around wearing similar t-shirts, holding hands and sharing their views. A feeling of ‘less than’ sometimes comes over me. This cause me to question God as when will I find love? I overcame by my continuous involvement in youth activities. I went to Youth for Christ and tried to socialize with others. I learnt about sublimation that is, channeling your energy in to meaningful activities. I also prayed a lot and became involved in a great hobby of photography. As my biological clock ticked, my need for companionship returned so started to pray for earnestly. I even reached out to a counselor who shared with me her experiences in meeting her husband. Here I was encouraged and I encouraged myself in the Lord because I know He will provide in His season.

What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband? Now that you are married, do you still think that those are the most important qualities to find in a mate?

Here are five qualities that I had on my list. He must have a relationship with Jesus Christ, (A born again Christian) loving God Almighty. He must love me for who I am, he should be a man of the soil, must be honest and independent. I certainly think these qualities are important as we are able share wholeheartedly and do tasks that bring out the best in us individually as well as couple. For example, when we got married I was in the education system and he was in the administrative business world, but we were able to appreciate the demands of our work, going to the many meetings and staying the long hours. I felt comfortable that he would not cheat on me despite the many influences that would come around. Another example can be seen in how he loves the Lord. I enjoy when he presents me to the Lord. I feel special and beautiful. As the King in the home I find his love for the soil amazing. All the fruit trees, flowers and some ground provisions are planted by my husband and we are able enjoy the many provisions and I feel blessed for this. Another example and I think this is key; loving me for who I am has enabled me to grow, and get to know him better. He is my teacher, my friend and my husband and this cause him to share with me unreservedly. There is no doubt that these qualities foundation to happy living. As a woman, I can have my girl time. I do not have any fear of running to care for him because he cannot do this for himself so I believe these qualities are key.

How did you know he was the right man to marry?

I saw him as the man God had for me because he had all the qualities that I wanted. He led the way in the relationship, and he saw he me as special, according to his letters. It is now 29 happy years and I am enjoying every moment of it.

Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time of singleness that has blessed you in marriage?

During my singleness God allowed me to learn to depend on Him, through prayers and reading the word. I also did many academic and leisure courses that helped me to be productive in marriage.

What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?

My advice is to have a total reliance on God. Also learn skills that will empower you and in the process meet persons. Empower themselves by doing courses which allows for meeting persons. They also should be totally depend on God. In other word look at God’s blueprint as found in Genesis chapter 24.

Thank you, Marlene, for sharing your story!!

Modern Ruth: Keri

I am so excited to share with you our latest Modern Ruth Profile, Keri!  Look at her sweet picture with her fiance!  Check out her story below and then go check out her blog at www.littlelightonahill.com!

Josh&Keri

Age At Marriage    

29 (5 months shy of 30!)

Tell me a little about the journey from meeting to marriage, starting with how you met!

Josh and I had met at the church we both go to but at the time I was in a relationship with someone else. While we knew each other we didn’t really know each other well or hang out. After my breakup Josh and I got closer because he was really good friends with my brother-in-law. Coming out of a very serious relationship I was not in the mindset of wanting another relationship. I had been praying that whoever came next would be “the one” and would have to work their tushy off for me! We continued to get closer and closer and one day I realized that I was starting to have feeling for him. However, I am stubborn and had my heart broken so I wasn’t in a place where I could be vulnerable enough to tell him. Long story short, after a few months of hanging out and getting to know each other he told me that he had feelings for me but was only interested if this was something I could see being serious. He wasn’t interested in “dating around”. After a year of dating Josh asked me to be his wife and we get married in a month!

What was your biggest struggle as a single person, and what helped you overcome it?

The thing that I struggled with most was the pure fact that ALL my friends my age were married with at least one kiddo. I saw my friends (and then their younger siblings) get married and start their lives with their loves and I was still single. I thought that maybe something was wrong with me or that I was undesirable. Once I learned to turn to God for comfort, I found that I am already whole in Him. I already have everything I need in Him. It was only when I started putting my identity in my Savior rather than my relationship status that I began to love who I was without a man by my side.

What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband? Now that you are married, do you still think that those are the most important qualities to find in a mate?

There was a time I could’ve given you a whole list of “must have’s” for my future man. I legit had like 20! Is this just me or does every girl do this?? But after my last breakup I realized that all I wanted was a Godly man who would fight for me. Someone who would be willing to break through the walls I had put up and would put Christ first above all else. I think that this is one of the reasons why Josh and I have worked. We have both put God first and are intentional about digging deeper into each other’s needs and wants.

How did you know he was the right man to marry?

I don’t know that there was a particular moment in time that I could say was THE moment I knew. But as we began to do life together I began to rely on him for advice and comfort. He is the person that could make me feel beautiful when I feel gross, the person who calms me down when I am mad, who comforts me when I am sad. He corrects me with love when I am actin-a-fool and always points me towards Christ. It was when I realized that he was my “home” that I knew he was the one God had for me.

Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time of singleness that has blessed you in marriage?

The thing that has blessed me the most was when I learned to put my identity in Christ. My whole identity, not just “I’m a Christian” but knowing that I am God’s child. Knowing that He is sovereign and learning to be content in every place He had me in life. Once I learned that I let go of the passionate desire to be with someone and just focused on serving Him. I think this carries out into marriage so well. Our husbands, parents, friends, jobs, will disappoint us at some point or another. If we know who we are in Him then it’s easier to forgive and love them through that tough season!

What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?

I believe that marriage may not be what God has in store for every single woman. For a long time I came to accept that marriage not be His will for my life. With that being said, whether marriage is in God’s plan for you or not, know that it is not God’s ONLY plan for you. You are a woman of God. You are a friend, sister, daughter, employee, and a servant of the Almighty. What can you do TODAY to be used by God? How are you using the roles God has entrusted you with right now to better His kingdom? It’s when we focus all our attention on Him that we can best be used by Him. So, whether you know in the depths of your soul that God has marriage in His plan for you or you are unsure and are praying about it, know that He WILL use you regardless of your relationship status. The only thing you have to do is obey His word and be content with where He has you right now and He will do the rest.

Modern Ruth: Nicole

Nicole Evans

Love this gorgeous wedding photo of Nicole and Toby!  Check out her wedding story below and I pray it gives you encouragement!

  1. What age were you when you got married?

5 days before I turned 30

  1. How did you make use of the time that you were single?

I stayed busy so that I wouldn’t think about it. I got really involved in church, work and hung out with friends constantly. I was able to be there for people that maybe I wouldn’t have been available for them if I was married, pregnant, etc.

  1. What was your biggest struggle as a single person?

There were so many unfortunately! The main struggle was family: I was getting older and I wanted KIDS! I worried I wouldn’t get to experience the miracle of being pregnant and having babies! A close second was feeling alone while my friends had already found “the one.” Always feeling like the third wheel.

  1. What helped you wait on the Lord?

Many things: One was reading my Bible and believing that God had already hand picked him out, it just wasn’t time yet. Two was claiming the verse Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans that I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Three was my mom and my dad, they were so encouraging, never once did they make me feel bad about not having a prospect. Four, I created a list of everything I wanted in a man, the list was super detailed, but I knew my God cared about everything even to the smallest detail!! I read this list and prayed over this list almost everyday.

  1. What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband?

1. Christian. 2. Smart. 3. Funny. 4. Good looking. 5. Nice to everyone, no matter what

  1. Tell us a little about the journey from meeting to marriage.

I was living in Columbus, OH and he just moved to Columbus, OH from Las Vegas for law school. He is originally from Ohio and decided to do a search on Myspace (the old school social media site) to see if any of his friends were still in Ohio. My profile popped up and his roommate dared him to ask me out.

So he messaged me and asked me out. He wrote: “Don’t you hate it when weird guys on Myspace ask you out that you don’t know?”. I responded, “Yes”. (that’s it) He then proceeded to write me over the span of three months and then asked me out again. I again said, “No”. We then continued to email for another three months and he asked me out for the third time. This time I said, “Yes”. I told all my friends where I would be just in case he ended up being a creepster.

We met at Starbucks and talked for five hours straight. I remember walking in and thinking he is so hot, I’m nervous. We hit it off right away and the rest is history. It was nice meeting someone that was on the exact same page as you. It felt right from the beginning and continues to get better and better. He is my best friend and there is no doubt in my mind that this is the man that God had for me from the very beginning.  He was worth the wait and I would do it all over again.

  1. How did you know that he was the man that you were to marry?

My mom, who is such a prayer warrior, started praying for our mates when my siblings and I were babies and one of the things she prayed was that “he” would just know the second he met “me” that I was the one for him. Later, my husband told me that on the first date we went on, there was this voice in his ear telling him over and over again that I was the one he was going to marry. He said it was driving him crazy! He proposed four months later. It took me about two months to figure it out, but he hit EVERYTHING on my list!

  1. Now that you are married, what do you think are the most important qualities to look for in a husband?

A Christian man who will be a good Christian leader.  However, Toby was a new Christian when I met him, but I could see his potential and his drive to learn more about Christ. Another important quality is marrying someone that you respect, to me this is a close close second! And compatibility, if you struggle to get along/communicate now, it most likely won’t get any easier.

  1. Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time in singleness that has blessed you in marriage?

I grew closer and closer to God during this time. I had to trust that he was going to provide the perfect guy for me. And he did, which allowed me to be grateful for my husband and appreciate him. I am so blessed to have him as my husband.

  1. What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?

Don’t worry! God has it all under control. I know, I know, easier said than done. But, believe me when I say he will provide! Also, don’t get frustrated when annoying people say mean things to you about still being single. Try to enjoy your single-hood, because when you get married comes compromise. When you find the one that God has for you, it is worth the wait. It is wonderful! Be patient. Don’t settle!

 

Modern Ruth: Katie

Katie Holland

Beautiful wedding pic!  Check out Katie’s equally beautiful story below!

Age at Marrage

I have now been married for 3 ½ months. I am 37. My husband is 41. This is my first marriage; it is his second.

Tell me a little about the journey from meeting to marriage, starting with how you met!

When I moved to Fort Worth, I began to get plugged in to a small group. I went to an impromptu dinner at someone’s house. Guess who was there… Yep! Michael!! I remember thinking how easy he was to talk to and what a great guy he seemed to be.  Shortly after, he moved out of state.

When he moved back to Fort Worth a few months later, we now shared the same circle of friends. A mutual friend decided that we needed to talk. We went on our first “date” on January 2 two years ago. And during that dinner, I realized that every wall I had built over the past umpteen years during every broken relationship was down. (These walls were mile high. For real.) I had absolutely no walls with him. It was frightening, but I left that night wondering if I was feeling what people felt when they said “they just knew.”

What was your biggest struggle as a single person, and what helped you overcome it?

My biggest struggle as a single woman was the wait. I remember lying in bed one night thinking that I had the house, the car, the job. But I longed for someone to share all of that with. I longed for someone to laugh with me when I walked into a wall. I had many lonely days/ nights, but I wasn’t willing to settle.

What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband? Now that you are married, do you still think that those are the most important qualities to find in a mate?

  1.    Loves the Lord
  2.    Loves me
  3.    Makes me laugh even on the toughest of days (laughing makes everything better for me)
  4.    Treats others with respect
  5.    Lives a life of integrity

Now, I think the two most important qualities are a love and passion for Jesus and COMMUNICATION.

How did you know he was the right man to marry?

It may sound crazy, but I just “knew.”  Michael is not a perfect person. But he is perfect for me.  From day one, my massively high walls were down.  Michael always makes me feel like the most beautiful woman in the room. Conversation is easy with him and I can trust him and his motives even during the difficult conversations. We have fun together. We laugh a lot. We encourage each other. Because we are open and honest with each other, we are able to meet each other’s needs.

Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time of singleness that has blessed you in marriage?

There has been so much blessing from my time alone. First, I got to watch God work in some amazing ways throughout my life, bringing a knowledge that God’s plan is best and better than I could imagine as well as a constant reminder that even when the wait is hard, it is worth it. Second, I fell in love with my Savior. I love Michael and I am submissive to him, but at the same time we both know that I don’t need him to complete me; Jesus did that a long time ago. Instead, Michael COMPLEMENTS me. Third, I grew up and became who I am. Along the way, as I dated others, I found myself trying to be who I thought they wanted me to be. But as I aged, I realized that I didn’t need to be anyone but myself. Fourth, because of the past hurts, I don’t ever take Michael for granted. He is amazing and he should hear it every day.

What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?

I would give other ladies the same advice my brother gave me. Don’t spend your life wishing it away while waiting for “Mr. Right” and don’t settle for “Mr. Right Now.”  Live life!

  •       Pursue God and friendships with godly women
  •       When the lonely days come, lean on God: pray, quote scripture, read His word, and remember that He promises you that you are NOT alone
  •       Serve
  •       Grab a friend and get out of the house… maybe even the state

Remember, if and when God chooses to bless you with a life mate, he will absolutely be WORTH THE WAIT!!!!!

Modern Ruth: Jennifer

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Meet Calvin and Jennifer!  I am very happy to say that Jennifer is our very first online contributor, generously sharing her story to encourage other single women!!  She is also a fellow online dater and you can check out her blog at beautyisaproject.com.  I love her story and I know you will too – check it out!

I had been on eHarmony off and on for about 2 years. But I started approaching the site and dating in general differently after reading, “How To Get A Date Worth Keeping: Be Dating In Six Months Or Your Money Back” by Henry Cloud. I started reading the book in April 2014 and met my fiancé, Calvin, online in June 2014. So I guess I won’t be getting a refund 🙂 We had a long distance relationship for the entirety of our dating season. I resided in Maryland while Calvin lived in Arizona. Every few months, we’d take turns visiting each other. In between visits, we talked, prayed and laughed together during hours (I mean, seeing the starry night bleed into a golden sunrise hours) long phone/video conversations. We also sent each other surprise packages and cards to ease the discomfort of our distance. Last May, Calvin decided to send me the biggest surprise package: himself. He flew clandestinely to Maryland and was standing at my door, bouquet of flowers in hand, when I arrived home from work. I was absolutely stunned to see him. And when he got down on his knee to propose a few minutes later, my shock escalated to pure joy. Joy will join with happiness and smiles when we marry in June.

Age at Marriage

31

What was your biggest struggle as a single person, and what helped you overcome it?

I struggled a lot with comparison. In my twenties, a dating and marriage crescendo began in my group of friends. And I remained the perpetually single one. That made me wonder, examine, and measure myself constantly. Trusting in God definitely changed that. I realized that if I’m living and seeking His will for my life, then I am not defective. Rather, His story and timing for me will be different.

What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband? Now that you are married, do you still think that those are the most important qualities to find in a mate?

The top 5 qualities I desired in a husband were a strong relationship with God, a kind heart, an easygoing personality, confidence, and humor. I think the last four can be exchanged for other equally important qualities like adoration for vanilla cupcakes with sprinkles or knowledge of every line to the movie, “Coming To America” :-). But a constant relationship with Jesus is immovable as the essential.

How did you know he was the right man to marry?

I was very used to my dances with romance fizzling out quickly. But in the infant stages of my relationship with Calvin, I began to see that this wasn’t going to be a fizzle. While seeking God about our relationship, He gave me peace. And the more time Calvin and I spent together, I saw more of his heart, his faith, his honesty and his sincerity.

Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time of singleness that has blessed you in marriage?

I’m not sure what experiences I had while single will benefit me during marriage. But one I hope will benefit is the ability to discern perspectives. Everyone sees a situation, a person, or a story differently. That doesn’t make them wrong or myself right.

What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?

My advice for singles later in life can be boiled down to these three points: -Thoroughly enjoy this season of life. -Your story is written with God’s plan for you in mind. -Continue to trust God, His heart, and His timing.

Modern Ruth: Lizzy

Elizabeth Brock2

I heart this super romantic wedding photo – definitely the picture of the fairy tale wedding that we all want to have!  Meet Lizzy and Jason – and her story below is as cute as the picture above!

  1. What age were you when you got married?
  • 33
  1. How did you make use of the time that you were single?
  • Honestly, I didn’t really make good use of it. I really wish I had used that time more strategically. I think I allowed myself to wallow in my singleness way too much. I let myself stay in a funk a lot of the time, so I didn’t leave the house a whole lot.
  1. What was your biggest struggle as a single person?
  • The biggest struggle was a toss-up between not having that closeness with someone and watching all my friends around me getting married and having little ones.
  1. What helped you wait on the Lord?
  • The thing that helped me was coming to the realization that if I settled, I would be absolutely miserable and wouldn’t be living out God’s best life for me.
  1. What were the top five qualities that you were looking for in a husband?
  • Christ follower – loves the Lord
  • Extremely handsome – and yes, it was #2 on the list, as shallow as that may sound.
  • Responsible – I wasted my time dating boys instead of men and I was totally done with that.
  • Funny – a great sense of humor is a must-have!!
  • Athletic – I grew up playing sports and wanted someone who shared that interest,
  1. Tell us a little about the journey from meeting to marriage.
  • We were both sort of dating other people when we met at Highpoint Church (which is a funny story in and of itself). The only reason I went to the Singles class was b/c the guy I was dating asked me to go so that his friend wouldn’t have to go alone. Jason (my husband) was only there b/c the gal he wanted to date said he needed to get in church. Ha! I immediately introduced myself b/c he looked miserable!
  • We became fast friends, played volleyball together, talked about the people we were “dating” and spent quite a bit of time together.
  • We started dating about 6 or 7 months after becoming friends, but a couple of months later, he thought the Lord was telling him to reconcile with his ex-wife. Talk about a heart crushing experience. However, I knew he needed to at least explore that b/c I was not about to talk someone out of trying to restore a previous marriage since God hates divorce.
  • Long story short, they just needed closure, which they got. Jason and I then became officially official in January 2012, were engaged by July, married in September and got pregnant w/ our first kiddo in December. Once we knew, we wasted no time!
  1. How did you know that he was the man that you were to marry?
  • Honestly, this is a question that is just so difficult to answer other than to say, I just knew. I hate that answer, though. I will say that going through premarital counseling really solidified my decision to marry him. I had given the Lord a checklist, if you will, years and years before, and He literally checked off every box… down to the most trivial, seemingly insignificant items (such as, looks really cute in a backwards cap). I know I sound so shallow, but my list was very comprehensive and that one item was not a make it or break it item. =)
  1. Now that you are married, what do you think are the most important qualities to look for in a husband?
  • Christ follower – first and foremost
  • Responsible – this is just so stinkin’ important b/c there are so many fellas who just aren’t responsible! It’s ridiculous.
  • Someone who has similar interests. You don’t want to end up with someone who never wants to do the things you want to do and vice versa. Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me.
  • Someone who communicates well!!
  • Treats his mama right!!!!
  1. Looking back, what did God develop in you during your time in singleness that has blessed you in marriage?
  • He gave me the desire to be an excellent wife so I did a lot of research and reading on what Scripture says about being a good wife and helpmate. He developed me into a more mature person, but I still had a lot of maturing to do even after we got married!
  1. What advice would you give to ladies who are single later in life?
  • DO. NOT. SETTLE. Oh my goodness, I can’t say enough about this. I think back on all the times I could’ve settled and how absolutely miserable I would likely be now!
  • Make the most of the time you have while you have it. Like I said previously, I did not do this. I wish I would’ve gotten involved in non-profs and volunteered my time to help others. What a waste!
  • Do NOT wallow in your singleness. Not only is that a highly unattractive quality to a potential hubs candidate, but it just leaves you in a funk… and that’s no good!
  • Take care of yourself physically. Eat sensibly, exercise regularly and look super cute every time you leave the house! This applies to once you’re married as well!
  • Try to stay as positive as possible and trust in the Lord!