In the midst of searching for a life partner, the last thing that we think we want is space. We want togetherness, a shared life, part of a pair. Space, after all, is what we think we already have.
But space is not just physical, but psychological. How are you finding space from the expectations of the world? How are you giving yourself both space and grace to be yourself as an individual? Are you currently trapped in daily fears that you will never find the right one? Do you run from relationship to relationship, always defining yourself by whoever you are dating?
Once you are in a marriage, psychological space becomes no less important. How do you keep your independence, your identity? Who are you, separate from the relationship?
In the midst of a highly stressful job myself, I have been seeking space in the form of reading about simplicity, mindfulness, and contemplation. I want to carve out a space for myself where I can find peace and calm, not bouncing from one stressful situation to the next. I cannot control external circumstances, but I hope I can create an inner oasis and recognize the external for what it is – fleeting.
As we will see from the verses this month, Jesus too needed space, and God calls us to set ourselves apart from the world. Space is a spiritual practice in many ways that allows room for God to move in us.
This month, we challenge you to create space in your life, whether physical, psychological, or spiritual. Intentionally create that space and ask the Holy Spirit to fill it. By the end of this month, hopefully we will all be more centered in our own selves, more connected to God, and more free of the stress of the world. Best wishes for July!