The Power of Words

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What words have changed your life?

The strongest muscle is neither the biceps nor the glute because the strongest, most powerful muscle in our body is in fact the tongue. A strong bicep gives the ability to hurt physically but the tongue has the capacity to wound emotionally.

Out of the five love languages suggested Dr. Gary Chapman in the well-known book  ‘The 5 Love Languages’ , my primary love language is words of affirmation –because of that, I have the propensity to reflect on statements and/or words whether they are from me or spoken to me by others. I find that words have the capacity to do the following:

Words Create

Words have the capacity to create intimacy or they can ruin a relationship. Proverbs 18:19 tells us that “A brother offended is more unyielding than a strong city, and quarreling is like the bars of a castle.”

Words have equal ability to create life (hope) or death (hopelessness) in a situation such as the vitality in a marriage or friendship because “Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit—you choose”  (Proverbs 18:21 , The Message Bible) and the responsibility is ours.

Words Empower

Words have the power to give authority.  Think about the oaths read out by a priest in an ordination service, or by a judge as he takes office. The institution gives the individual the authority to perform the duty entrusted to him.  Why would Christian couples conduct their wedding in a Church before an ordained minister? It is because not only the authority is given to the minister to officiate marriages, but also the importance of the pronouncement of blessing (from God through the minister) upon the new season that they are about to embark on.

Words Direct (the course of one’s life)

A judge who is empowered to perform his duty could sentence a person to death or life imprisonment by his words. Words uttered by parents have profound impact over their children. Teachers can change students’ careers, and the words “I love you” have caused men and women to move mountains.

Personally, I have not been hurt physically by anyone (so not the type of girl who would get into physical fights or MMA). But I have been wounded by words – regardless of whether they were intentional or unintentional. They caused me to focus only inward rather than looking out beyond the horizon, blinded to the fact that the world has so much more to offer.

As followers of Jesus, we are accountable for our words, for they are powerful.

Proverbs 26:18-19, The Message Bible – People who shrug off deliberate deceptions, saying, “I didn’t mean it, I was only joking,” are worse than careless campers who walk away from smoldering campfires.

 Matthew 15:17-20, English Standard Version – Do you not see that whatever goes into the mouth passes into the stomach and is expelled? But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person. But to eat with unwashed hands does not defile anyone.”

 Colossians 4:6, The Message Bible – Use your heads as you live and work among outsiders. Don’t miss a trick. Make the most of every opportunity. Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.