Not the kind of new thing we were talking about…
Not the kind of new thing we were talking about…
Loves Jesus? Check.
Good breath? Mostly.
Has a sense of humor? Uh, something like it.
Six feet tall? No, he’s precisely 1.7 millimeters taller than you.
Makes six figures? Well, not exactly.
Owns a home? The way his life is set up right now.…
Wait wait wait, Jesus. I think you got my order wrong. Maybe you misheard my prayers? Because I was very specific and I was sure that the man of my dreams would line up with your will.
No, I heard you. And I know what you desire and what you think you want. But more than that, I know exactly what you need.
What you want can sometimes be based solely on what you know. Things you’ve done before. Things you’re comfortable with. And how many broken hearts have you gathered in the name of comfort up until this point?
But I am going to do a new thing. Something that will stretch your faith and test your trust. However, believe that what I desire for you will soon be something that you desire even more. Something that you didn’t even see coming. But something that will bring more glory to my name and more joy to your life than any man from a list could ever do.
What I’ve created for you will be infinitely better than what you could create for yourself.
So don’t be afraid to seek me when someone may not fit all of your criteria. Or when someone you’ve noticed, and who’s noticed you, has asked you to try new things. Or when your list opens your options up to everyone under the sun. Or when your list narrows your options down to, well, just me and Moses.
As long as I’m in it, different won’t always mean unattractive. New won’t always beget fear. And your ‘type’ will be exactly who I’ve chosen as my best for you.
Hey there! My name is Roz. I’m a full time working, single, homeschooling mother to the world’s funniest 5 year old on the planet. I’m an introvert who is obsessed with bacon. I like to play music extremely loudly in my car and will keep singing at full voice even when you turn to stare. I also blog occasionally over at beautyfullyflawed.com where I write words about Jesus, homeschooling, and the beauty of imperfections. I look forward to sharing my imperfections with you, as well.
And if they do, can you base a stable relationship on them?
And Peter answered Him, “Lord, if it is You, command me to come to You on the water.” He said, “Come.” So Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus.”- Matthew 14:28-29 (ESV)
What does your comfort zone look like?
Some design their zones with a red carpet, blazing lime lights, and velvet ropes fastened on platinum pillars. Some construct theirs with brick walls, a steel roof, and a narrow doorway. Others complete their zones with a rose petal carpet, diaphanous curtains, and a smoky pink haze.
Mine is a sphere that’s coated in two-way mirrored glass. People can look in the sphere and see themselves but not what’s inside. The interior of the sphere, however, is soft carpet where I sit on a huge grape colored cushion. And beside the cushion is a remote where I can decide if I want to weaken the reflective coating to reveal what’s inside.
We like familiarity. Things we know feel safe and cozy and comfortable. But the Lord triggers our growth by moving us away from the known.
A few years ago, my sphere was divinely shattered when I received an e-mail. I reread it, blinked, and read it again. I had just been invited to a company luncheon with a handful of other co-workers. It was a free meal with a group of friendly people.
And I was scared of going.
As the dictionary definition of an introvert, the idea of making small talk with colleagues, some of whom I see maybe once a month, made me queasy. What if I embarrass myself? What if I say the wrong thing? What if they don’t like me?
But since there were no loopholes I could escape through, I forced myself to accept the invitation. And it turned out to be a golden decision. While at the luncheon, I clicked with a co-worker, Jenole. In the days following, we had lively conversations that were encouraging and at times, very challenging. She’d periodically push me to try new things that garnered great surprising results, successes that wouldn’t have happened had I played it comfortable.
God used that simple luncheon to show me how my comfort zone, while feeling wonderful to me, was stifling my faith. How can we see how big our Father truly is if we only want Him to stay inside of our boundary lines?
Taking that first step outside of your life lane is scary. The ground quivers like jelly beneath you. For me, it was conversation with new people. Maybe for you, it’s leaving your job to start a new career. Or accepting your friend’s offer to set you up on a blind date. Or pursuing your degree in a field you’ve always been interested in. But if you remember that God is ordering every one of your footsteps, including those that are directing you away from the familiar, the jelly will turn to solid rock.
2 Corinthians 5:17
Jen found this amazing post that speaks to the heart of many MRP readers! Maybe your new thing that you try this month is broadening your vision of who the right man is for you!
So often, I hear within the single Christian women community to just keep working in my field. I hear that Ruth was found working and busy doing her purpose when she positioned herself to be found by this man of perfection, Mr. Boaz. So many women post statuses about being found by this famous man and even caption photos that tell the story of her wait. We’ve been sold this lie that when it comes to singleness, Boaz in all of his manliness, will come and rescue us from our singleness.
But I must ask you, “What if God doesn’t send you Boaz?”
It’s clear that he’s a hot commodity and millions of Christian women are a part of the rhetoric that if we just position ourselves, flow in purpose, and know who we are, that our prize at the end of it all would be marriage with our Boaz.
But what if God sent me a Moses?
A man who is a leader, but sometimes emotionally driven and in need of my assurance to stand in the fullness of who He was called to be? Although Moses was called, He still felt extremely inadequate and battled insecurities that almost caused him to forfeit the leader that the Lord was trying to pull out of him. What if it were my responsibility to encourage him into his identity?
Read more here!