Overeating. Sleepless nights. Too many drinks. Sound familiar?
I am a Type A overachiever. I want to reach every life goal set before me, and then crush it. But when it came to finding a husband, no amount of effort on my part seemed to make a difference.
I created and updated several online profiles. I joined co-ed meetup groups. I purposefully joined a church with a large number of singles. And yet the years passed without any sign of Mr. Right in sight.
As I watched Facebook friends get married, have kids, and post the many “Look at how successful I am!” photos, it became clear: I was falling behind. I was not meeting my goals. I was out of the life success race.
I just wanted to cry out to God: what am I doing wrong? What else do you want me to do? Why aren’t you answering my prayer?
I didn’t hear an answer—or at least, I didn’t hear the answer that I expected, in the form of a husband riding a white horse, a rose clenched between his teeth (just kidding – that would be weird). And so I felt forgotten, overlooked, and left behind.
The physical effects on me were classic stress symptoms. But that’s no way to live life. As I looked at how I was handling the stress and the negative impact on my health, I realized I had to find rest. Balance. Peace.
It’s easier said than done, but the common mantras of “let go and let God” and “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change” were on point. I had to not just give lip service to, but actually accept, that there was nothing that I could do to change my circumstances and to trust that God had it in hand. When it was the right time, He would bring the right person.
It wasn’t something that I could say just one time and boom! Cured. I had to remind myself over and over again. After every bad date. After every lonely night. Dear Lord, I trust that you have my future in your hands. I know that this time of waiting has nothing to do with me or my imperfections, but everything to do with your perfect plan. I will not waste my time by stressing. I will trust in you.
This message of trusting instead of stressing is just training for all of the circumstances in your life that don’t happy as quickly or easily as you want. Right now, I am having to teach myself the same lesson in regard to waiting on a job. Dear Lord, I will choose to trust in you rather than stress. And it’s not easy. My life feels chaotic, the path before me unknown. I just want to do something to make a job happen. I feel like I’ve waited long enough! But it’s the same story – God has my life in His hands and I have to trust Him with my financial and professional future just as much as I had to trust Him with my romantic future.
And one day I will likely be having to teach myself again while waiting on a baby. Dear Lord, I will choose to trust in you rather than stress. There will unfortunately always be opportunities for the devil to use stress to bring us down, make us despair, and negatively impact our health. It’s not a question of if, but when. But we have the power in our own hands to defeat the devil, and it’s returning again and again to our faith in the Lord.
The waiting is never easy. But it’s the lesson in how we wait that God truly wants us to learn.